On Tour! MP Author Randall Barnes (Guest Post/Video Feature) Post: People Dependency: The Problem Is You!
On Tour February 02nd-06th
Author Randall Barnes
Randall Barnes is an eighteen year old author, internet radio personality, public speaker and mentor who currently resides in Macon, GA. Randall is already renowned for his positive, realistic, moral driven writings. His first novel The Diary of Aaliyah Anderson has garnered over 46,000 reads on Wattpad.com and universal acclaim. He writes for the popular news website Urban Intellectuals, the relationship blog Courting Her and literary blog Straight, No Chaser. Randall is also the author of the eShort Riverview High: Circumstances, which hit number #2 on the Amazon charts in the week of its debut.
Randall is currently a senior at William S. Hutchings College & Career Academy. Along with being a talented writer, Randall also has the gift of public speaking. He won first place in the FBLA Region 5 Public Speaking Competition in January of 2013. Randall also was also the first student in history to represent Hutchings in the Rotary Club Speech Contest. The best has yet to come for this young man. Look out!
DC Bookdiva Publications: http://www.dcbookdiva.com/#!product/prd15/2583730071/the-diary-of-aaliyah-anderson
ABOUT THE BOOK
Meet Aaliyah Anderson, a beautiful, intelligent, ambitious thirteen-year-old young woman ready to take over the world. With her mom being a superstar broadcast journalist and her older brother Damon being an acclaimed writer and star sports player. Aaliyah lives a fantastic life. Aaliyah quickly learns that her good life, doesn’t separate her from life’s problems. She has to deal with tons of hardships and avoid many obstacles along her path to achieving her short term goal of finally making it to high school and what she feels will bring her closer to her dreams of being a CEO of a company.
Aaliyah has to deal with overwhelming family issues such as the divorce of her parents and the result of her “father’s” unfaithfulness, infidelity, and a family secret that turns her world upside down. As if her family wasn’t messed up enough, her eleven-year old brother turns to the streets and joins the Eastside Rydahz, one of the most notorious gangs in the city. Her eldest brother Jeffery, or high-ranked Rydah 808, hates everything about Aaliyah and she doesn’t understand it. All Aaliyah wants is to have the ideal loving, united family and it hurts her that their situation is seemingly fractured beyond repair.
To make things even more pressing, she lives in the ruthless city of Willowsfield, statistically the #1 most dangerous city in America, where senseless community violence is the norm and life expectancy is low. With the pressure to succeed and make it out of the ditch that Aaliyah calls her hometown, she still has to deal with more problems that test her patience.
With its realistic characters, life-like setting and dynamic message, The Diary of Aaliyah Anderson is entertaining and a sure fire conversation starter on what we need to do as a generation.
People Dependency: The Problem Is You!
“Codependency underlies all addictions. The core symptom of “dependency” manifests as reliance on a person, substance, or process (i.e, activity, such as gambling or sex addiction). Instead of having a healthy relationship with yourself, you make something or someone else more important. Over time, your thoughts, feelings, and actions revolve around that other person, activity, or substance, and you increasingly abandon your relationship with yourself.”
-Darlene Lancer, from the article “Recovery from Codependency”, PychCentral.com
A common mental characteristic that I see from many of my peers is low self-esteem. Considering the fact that I’m currently a senior in high school in the 21st century, it’s common. The black community at large has a huge problem with self-love and image but it’s especially applicable to the general teen society. The tender teen years are the time where you start to come into your own. You develop your own personality and outlook and philosophies on life that often differs from your parents. Parents become more of advisors than dictators and decisions start to solely lie on your shoulders.
Sadly, many teenagers succumb to immense peer pressure. They start to drink, smoke and do generally stupid and self-destructive practices for popularity and acceptance. A perfect example is a female sleeping with multiple guys at a time, disregarding the psychological and health risks of that practice. These occurrences are signs of what I prefer to call people dependency, which leads back to low self-esteem. How can you really come into your own if you don’t have the innate confidence to do so? How can you really be a whole person if you’re dependenton someone outside of yourself for validation?
We need to realize the fact that we control our emotions. No one can dictate your outlook on viewpoint on life except you! Our dependency on other things outside of ourselves is sickening. It does start to become a disease and something that stunts your growth.
Don’t think that I’m condemning anyone. I just overcame a type of dependency on my own. While I wasn’t fascinated with the thoughts and opinions of the people around me, I fed off of my knowledge of self. I was a full blown militant! Anything derogatory against black people or self-hating in its nature I was on attack. I was debating down my peers and quoting the great words of Malcolm X and Marcus Garvey like a preacher. Boy, I was something!
I also had this “save-the-world” mindset that ended up hurting me in the end. I desperately wanted people to take heed to what I was saying. I’d even drop everything to try to help somebody come up. They never would and I’d look back and kick myself for even wasting my time.
After reflecting and analyzing myself, I realized that I needed to worry about helping myself and only help people that come to me for advice. In doing this, I’m now able to more effectively communicate. Why can’t other people sit down and become one with themselves?
Let’s face it, folks are uncomfortable in the skin that they’re in. If they don’t get over this permeated self-hate complex, life will be infinitely hard for them. I understand the concept of having a best friend or confident but we take things too far. We don’t need them to survive!
Promotion February 02nd-06th
- Feb. Mon. 02nd- (8pmcst/9pmest) 30 minute Book Chat w/ Michelle Cornwell-Jordan- IndieReview Behind The Scenes Internet Radio
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- Feb. Wed.04th- (8pmcst/9pmest) Ten Minute Twitter View chat w/ Host Michelle Cornwell-Jordan Follow Hashtag#MPTour
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- Feb. Fri. 06th- Video trailer Spotlight at IndieReview Behind The Scenes TV
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